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May 2006

 

Welcome to all of you new members of the Catholic Prayer Club (CPC).

 

CPC was conceived as a message board for Catholic Christians wishing to share ideas on prayer and the development of personal spirituality. While the guiding theme of our club is prayer, this is in no way intended to limit the topics of discussion. In fact any and all topics pertaining to our Catholic faith are welcome. The success of any club depends on the active participation of its members. I hope you will “post in” on a regular basis and tell your friends and family about CPC. Its easy to join all they need to do is go to http://groups.yahoo.com/group/catholicprayerclub and press the Join Now key.

 

 

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Retreats Are Not Just for Priests and the Vowed Religious

 

 

Often times when I mention to someone that I was recently on retreat I encounter a look of surprise and bewilderment followed by “ I thought only Priests, Nuns and other Church officials do that kind of thing.” While it is true that almost all of the vowed religious and clergy regularly go on retreat, there are also thousands of everyday Catholics and other Christians that undertake the retreat experience every year. In the US retreat activity peaks during the summer months thus I thought this topic would be very timely for our Inaugural Newsletter.

 

What is a retreat anyhow?

 

The Catholic Encyclopedia describes a retreat as – The name of a period of time varying in length from several days to a month during which the faithful, cleric and lay, may undertake prayer, meditation, devotions and spiritual exercises for the purpose of advancing in spiritual living or amendment of life. Take note of the above words lay and faithful because that refers to us, just plain old everyday Catholics in the congregation. Based on my personal experience I encourage anyone that is interested in deepening his or her prayer life and personal spirituality to go on a retreat for several days. I think you will find the experience to be among the most rewarding things you ever do.

 
Where would I go?

 

The first step is deciding on a location for your retreat. There exist slightly more than 500 Catholic retreat centers and houses in the U.S. and Canada thus one is generally located within, or in close proximity to almost every medium to large city. Personally I prefer retreat houses located in the countryside because I enjoy time outdoors. My favorite retreat center in the greater New York area is the Bethany Spirituality Center located in Highland Mills, NY. The Sisters of the Religious of Jesus and Mary operate Bethany. It’s a former boarding school for girls and was once also an exclusive family estate nestled on 80 acres of rolling lawns, wooded glens, with a lake and beautiful wildflower gardens. I’ve been there so many times that they finally elected me to their Board of Directors. The Sisters of J&M are very welcoming and run Bethany in a top- flight manner. Another source of retreat location ideas is your local Parish or Diocese office as well as the Internet. One of the best web sites is Retreats International at www.retreatsintl.org which has a list of retreat houses throughout the

U. S. and Canada.

 

What would I do?

 

Next you should decide what type of retreat you want to undertake as well as the duration of your retreat. For first timers I would suggest a two or three day retreat. This allows sufficient time to wind down on arrival and to settle into the rhythm of the retreat experience.

There are several systems or set procedures for retreats, for example, the Spiritual Exercises of St. Ignatius. However, the basic requirements are solitude with the keeping of silence, a schedule of prayer, and a series of spiritual conferences or talks given by a priest or other spiritual director that is on staff. Another variation and the type of retreat that I prefer, is a private directed retreat. Essentially that means that I go to the retreat house alone rather than as part of an organized group. Upon arrival I am assigned a spiritual director who will meet with me once or twice each day to guide me on some prayers and meditations. The director does not pray with you but gives you guidelines, ideas, and scripture reading suggestions, which help to engender creative, effective contemplation. You will also be encouraged to spend ample time resting, relaxing, and enjoying the evidence of God’s creation, which is always all around us. Or as they say, “ taking some time to smell the roses.” When you call to make your retreat reservation they will gladly assist you in selecting the type of retreat that you want.

 
 
Will others be there?

 

Even if you make a private retreat others may be staying at the retreat house at the same time. It is important to recognize, however, that during a silent retreat the people around you will not be talking to you. Thus do not feel odd if people pass you in the hallway without even a nod. As you can expect cell phones, computers, Ipods and the like while not usually prohibited are discouraged. After all, lest we forget the purpose of a retreat is to get away from our normal routine, so I generally leave these things at home.

 
 
Retreats are not expensive

 

The accommodations range from bare bones “hotel” room to Spartan monks’ quarters. Nearly all are well lighted, clean and comfortable. Costs are generally very modest averaging from $50 to $100 per day including a comfortable private room, three meals and snacks. Rates are often presented as a suggested donation. It is a nice gesture, but generally not required, that you give your director a modest cash honorarium equal to $5 to $10 per day at the conclusion of your retreat. If your budget is modest or even Spartan, don’t let that discourage you because most retreat centers will waive some or even all of the fees.

 

 

 

Give it a try

 

I don’t know anyone who has been on a retreat that did not enjoy it or felt that the time was poorly spent. A retreat offers the chance to reflect in an unhurried way on your life, your relationships, and your experience with God; to ponder the meaning of what has happened to you, and to prepare for the future. Most houses offer a warm and welcoming environment and good value and many are sited in settings of natural beauty so even if you are not inspired to leaps of faith, you will at least be impressed with the handiwork of nature.

 

Steve Macy

New York, NY

 

 

The CPC Prayer Intention for May

 

For vocations to the Church; Priests, Deaconate, men and women religious. Lord hear our prayer.

 

 

If any member of CPC would like to contribute an article for our newsletter next month or for any future month please let me know. The topic is up to you the author. I can be contacted at scmacyclc@yahoo.com